Life is not fair. God doesn't promise us that. He promises that He will be there for us.
My daughter had to learn that lesson last night. This past week was tryouts for volleyball at the high school. She has played freshman and JV. She didn't think she would make Varsity but we all thought she would make JV. We were wrong.
Last night, I answered the phone and through tears she tld me she didn't make the team at all. My hear broke for her. The pain in her voice was gut wrenching.
She was living my worst fear....not making the cut. I have always been so proud of my children to be like their dad when it comes to trying out for things. I never had the self-esteem to be able to do that. I was so afraid of the rejection, of not making the cut.
She came home and cried. I cried with her. She went over everything with me and it just came down to numbers. There were a lot of Juniors trying out and coachs don't want juniors unless they are going to play Varsity. They only had a small number of Juniors on the JV team. So she got cut. She felt like she played the best she could have.
She went thru all the emotions and questions that people go thru when they are rejected. After a while, I told her that I loved her becuase of who she is not because she plays volleyball for the high school. I told her that even though her pain was great right now, God has a plan for her. We can't see what that is and we don't like that is seems to not include volleyball but there is a plan and we have to wait and see what it is.
Her friends have been very kind to just give her a warm hug and not talk abut it with her. She is gone this weekend on the hs retreat....it is a deeply spiritual retreat, spending a lot of time in prayer and in the word. She said that she was looking forward to getting focused for school.
This is the crappy part of being a parent. It was hard for me to not to call the Coach and give her a piece of my mind!
Well, we will see what a weekend away and days at the beach can do to make the pain subside!
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ugh... that takes me back to when i didn't make a team i tried out for in high school. i can imagine how it would be make me feel if rachel had to go through that. but i would probably tell her the same things you told chelsea. i'm sorry you guys have had to go through that! the retreat came at the right time. God knows what he is doing. :) see you soon!
Sending lots of hugs to Chelsea!!
Ellyn, you are such a wonderful mother!
Love you!!
That is rough, but like you said God may have something else in mind for Chelsea this year. It may be something that she would have missed out on if she was tied up with Volleyball practice and games. This is one of those yucky "character building things" we all must go thru. I hope the retreat was awesome for her!
from the parent angle i just have to cry with you. my daughter and i have been down this road crying together. as i've heard oprah say, you cry and cry until you're through crying. it may take a while. but then it starts getting funny. slap happy funny. you start to see the upside of getting cut. it teaches us that our hopes are not of this world. our successes are not of this world. someone will come to christ because of chelsea's getting cut. someone will see something in her that stands tall and secure in the face of crushing disappointment. she will be a light to someone in the dark. she's a light to me all the time.
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